My wife is slow. Really slow. On foot and on bike but here is the important part, she is a total gamer. Rain, shine, the cold, wind, etc. She doesn’t care. She is famous for asking “Hey, can I go?” regardless of how intense the activity is. “We are going to ride the spine of the Andes on unicycles.” “Hey, can I go?”
But for people like me who ride and hike with her or any of you who hike or ride with a slow spouse the key is in staying behind. Now, this slow spouse thing goes both ways. Man vs woman, woman vs man. If we went snow skiing my wife would ski circles around me and has several times. In fact, she normally tries to get me to make pictures of her while she skies. I can barely stay upright on skies so what this means is I have to ski ten yards then crash so I can shoot from the ground. Then I get up, ski ten yards and crash again. I’ve even done this with a bad point-and-shoot with a huge delay which meant I had to crash about twenty times before I got it right. Was I capable enough to stop without crashing, well, a guy can dream right?
Stay behind people. It took me far too long to understand this. I kept blazing out and back, out and back, out and back. This means you are both basically hiking alone and that is never good in the long term. So, staying behind eases all this artificial tension and eases that selfish person in your brain saying “Jesus, I can’t ride this slow, I’m losing it.”
And here is another thing. It’s fun. You get to see so much more. And you get to think about things, in detail, that would be certain death if you were riding alone and at high speed. Sometimes when I’m hiking/running or riding alone I’m so in my head I miss things like an out-of-control dump truck headed into the bike lane or that mountain lion devouring a fellow hiker.
So, next time you are out and about with the old spouse take your time, ease into their slipstream and enjoy the ride.